We just upgraded a computer for her and her sister to use, exclusively. Once we put the memory in we asked her to try it. before she even pulled up a web page she said "this is too slow". My husband just about lost it. She hadn't even given it a chance.
She was invited to play on a travel basketball team and now that she's doing it she has absolutely no heart in the game. She jogs up and down the court when her team mates are running. She actually pulled herself out today. And when my husband asked her why she admitted to pulling herself out but she didn't have an explanation.
Dinner has gotten to be a battle because things she liked yesterday she decides she doesn't like today. We don't eat out a lot and fast food is a treat so I try to cook balance meals but she refuses to eat them.
I really don't know what to do. I am afraid she has developed this negative attitude that is going to be with her her whole life.
Answer by BlueFrogMama at 4:31 PM on Mar. 8, 2009
Answer by BlueFrogMama at 4:32 PM on Mar. 8, 2009
It is a stage in their development I think. Mine is 15 now & I have a boy, I noticed there are quite a few differences between boys & girls because I have a niece just 3 weeks to the day older than my son. I found at that age to kill the negativity, you have to turn it back on them & hold your ground & make it STICK !! Example 1st negative comment at dinner - tell her to get up & don't eat & go to bed since life she thinks is *so* BAD !! She can start over when she wakes up & maybe things will be better for her. Good-night sweetheart. Some SMART tough love at that age always worked for me & BEWARE she is at the age when it works, once they hit their teens you have to become EVEN more creative. One or two nights without dinner won't kill her. Good luck.
Answer by strongmom40 at 4:57 PM on Mar. 8, 2009
If she grips about that computer or ever what else, take it. Let her see what it is like to be without her THINGS she *thinks* are *so* bad. This tween age is the stage before the teen years when they truly think they are immortal. She is still of the age where you can PHYSICALLY show her she REALLY does not have it as bad as she thinks. Kill the negativity now or I'm telling ya from experience once the teen years roll around you loose all control. & by that I mean they are becoming their own person in their teens & I learned in my parenting class this week that in the teen years they will make decisions that mold them & we as the parents really have little say over what they think & how they act. It is called free will & during the teen years they think of ONLY their free will. They don't even comprehend anyone else knowing anything once they hit their teens.
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