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How if at all

can you convince your hubby to call his ex-wife to see his DD again? This month will be a year since we haven't seen her. She turned 16 in Aug. He has called his DD several times on her cell, left her a b-day present and has talked to her mom maybe two times. I know she is a teenager and they want to hang out with friends and a boyfriend. She also has two brothers and a sister here which she doesn't even know the sister. He says he doesn't want to make her come over if she doesn't want to.


Asked by Christine0813 at 6:14 PM on Mar. 8, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Mostlikely it is a teenage thing right now.. let him keep the door open.. it may be rough now.. but she will get over it sooner or later.. it may also be, that she is afraid for her dad to get to know her "friends" because sometimes bringing home a boy to meet dad can be a little rough and scary for a teenager.. so she may be distancing herself for reasons like that.

    Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 9:46 PM on Mar. 8, 2009

  • He's right. He can put all the effort at there that he wants, but it isn't going to work if she doesn't want to. GL

    Answer by racingmomma at 6:16 PM on Mar. 8, 2009

  • if him and his ex are not on good terms his daughter is not going to want to be around him this same situation happened with my half brother and my dad. he really needs to get an open communication with his ex before the daughter will trust or want to see him i would think. she is going to side with her mom and if mom is talking bad about dad (for any reason) she will think hes a bad guy and want nothing to do wiht him until she needs him. dont feel like typing whole situation with half bro pm if you need more advice.

    Answer by Kennadismom at 7:30 PM on Mar. 8, 2009

  • She's old enough to make up her own mind if she wants to see him or not. Unless there is a court order that says she has to go on weekends or holidays or whatever, there is not much you can do. He can keep inviting her though.

    Answer by admckenzie at 7:33 PM on Mar. 8, 2009

  • He should keep the door open. Maybe every few months repeat the invitation. At some point she'll gain the maturity to want to come.

    Answer by Bmat at 7:45 PM on Mar. 8, 2009

  • Thanks everyone. He does keep an open door for her and has told her that numerous times. He has always been on good terms with his ex and yes they do have a court order for her to be here on the weekends. I just don't get it. It has to be a teenager thing.


    Answer by Christine0813 at 7:49 PM on Mar. 8, 2009