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What are the signs of child sexual abuse?

I was molested as a child, so I feel like sometimes, I get more alarmed over things than what I should. I need to know what sort of things I should be alarmed about.

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 12:30 AM on Mar. 9, 2009 in Kids' Health

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  • I think you will first notice a general change in behavior. If your child is normally very out-going, and suddenly they became quiet and reserved, that could be cause for concern. Or vice versa. If they are normally a reserved person, and suddenly became very loud and demanding.

    mamalinzie

    Answer by mamalinzie at 8:31 AM on Mar. 10, 2009

  • An unusual discharge from the penis or the vagina
    Repeated touching of his genitals in public, even after you have told him many times to stop. This goes well beyond just the normal frequent touching often seen in young children; it involves much more compulsive and anxious touching.
    Trying to get other children or adults to touch his genitals, or repeatedly trying to touch someone else's genitals, even after being told to stop.
    Manually stimulating or having oral or genital contact with pets.


    Repeatedly drawing pictures with the genitals as the primary focus.


    Playing with his feces. (When considering this possible symptom, keep in mind that toddlers often find feces interesting "playthings", and some smear feces as sign of protest or anger after the birth of a sibling or some other upsetting event.)


    Engaging in oral-genital sex with another child, or simulating intercourse with a peer, even if the children a
    aubrees_mommie

    Answer by aubrees_mommie at 1:05 AM on Mar. 9, 2009

  • Engaging in oral-genital sex with another child, or simulating intercourse with a peer, even if the children are clothed. Other red flags: any sex play involving a much older or younger child (by three or so years), or vaginal or anal penetration with fingers or other objects. (Note, however, that all sex play is not a cause for alarm; undressing each other, playing doctor, or "show me yours, I'll show you mine" usually are expected, harmless behaviors during the preschool years.)
    Anxiety about certain places or people. If, without apparent cause, your child appears anxious about being left in certain places or with certain people, talk to him about what is making him feel uncomfortable. If you can't get a satisfactory answer, it's reasonable to ask him once or twice if anyone touched him in a way that made him feel bad (or hurt him in any other way) and then told him not to tell; sometimes this gives a child permission to
    aubrees_mommie

    Answer by aubrees_mommie at 1:07 AM on Mar. 9, 2009

  • he was abused. If you ask in a somewhat disinterested way (i.e., not with a lot of emotion in your voice), I don't think there is much chance of worsening the trauma. Don't grill your child.
    aubrees_mommie

    Answer by aubrees_mommie at 1:07 AM on Mar. 9, 2009