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I married the man of my dreams and I never wanted to have children I have never been good with kids. I got pregnant and my husband and I talked about it and he wanted a child so much that I thought "ok once I have the baby it will change" Well my daughter is 2 and I yet sometimes I still feel like this is something I never wanted and I feel like I am terrible at it. I have no patience with my daughter and SOMETIMES I just want to run. In general I really do want to be a good mom. I want her to be happy and people tell me that once she gets a little older and gets out of the terrible two phase that it will change and I will feel different. I just feel so lost and alone and I don't know what to do. When I try to talk to my husband about it he gets really upset and feels like I am the worst person in the world. I am so depressed and frustrated and I don't know what to do. Please don't bash. I feel terrible and wanted advice. thxAnswer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 3:40 AM on Mar. 10, 2009 in General Parenting
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I was 31 when I accidentally got pregnant. It was something I thought would never happen to me. When I was little I always said I wanted lots of kids, but when I hit my 30's I just decided that it wasn't meant to be, so when I did get pregnant, I was very excited. I really took to it and everything was great, but as my son got older, I found myself not loving it as much as I did when he was little. It wasn't the terrible 2's that got me, it was like he just didn't need me as much, even though he really did. Then I found out about some medical problems I have and that it was a result of what I was going through myself and not him. I'm not half them mom I want to be and I'm so sure I'm screwing it up, but you just have to get over that and do the best you can. It might help to talk to a therapist. I did and it helped me a lot. The only really bad mom's are the one's who are beating their children. Talking about it helps!
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