okay, my SO likes to watch a lot of porn.... i dont think its a big deal, but lately it bothers me a lot....i think its a little "jealousy" problem that i have for those perfect body pornstars that he like to watch..... so, when were having sex, instead of like maybe fantasizing (sp) about someone else.... i sometimes think about him being with someone else ( like one of those pornstars)...... is it that i have low self esteem because of my not so perfect body?? or what is wrong with me??? what do u think??Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 12:46 PM on Mar. 10, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by AK_aries at 12:52 PM on Mar. 10, 2009
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Answer by Anonymous at 12:58 PM on Mar. 10, 2009
I would say that you adapting the thoughts of your SO with another woman (they way you are doing it, as opposed to it just being something that turns you on) as a way to almost punish yourself or cause yourself pain. You are not alone other peole do things like that. But, although it is a way to "cope" I think essentially it is damaging. In the end you probably won't feel as genuinely satisfied as if you had not had those kinds of fanatasies or it could go the other way and you could start to need to fantasize that way during sex. I would intentionally make an effort to stop fantasizing that way. I would try to "swap" for another fantasy or better yet make a conscious effort to be completely in the moment. Don't feel bad or beat yourself up. There is nothing wrong with you.
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