Yes, peoples words do hurt, but they shouldn't hurt to the point that you cant recover from them. I have struggled for years with issues of bitterness towards people that seemingly rejected me in a comment, a look, an action. I then take those feelings and in an effort to NOT feel them, I put up walls of meaness and uncompassionism in an effort to "get them before they get me". I know that sounds SO dr phil, but its the truth. The key is knowing WHO you are and what youre about. Becoming secure in what you believe, who you are and where youre going is hard but its part of growing up. One of the things I figured out in my journey was that once I became secure in my decisions and I KNEW that I KNEW I was doing the right thing for me and for my kids, then nothing anyone can say about it bothers me. I think its the personal insults that always bothered me more and not peoples opinions about what I was doing or how I was doing it.
at 3:29 PM on Mar. 10, 2009