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Everytime I try to help him he freaks out?

I can just ask him if he wants help and it becomes screamfest 2009. Then he throws whatever he was holding. Is this sometimes normal? Is this a part of his "independance" ? he is almost 2 and I am a first time mom.

 
lincsmom74

Asked by lincsmom74 at 11:32 PM on Mar. 11, 2009 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Eh. ...that's somewhat normal. ...but how do you react to it?
    If you are at home and he acts like that just walk away from him, as far away as you can go with him still being safe. say something like "ow. it hurts my ears/feelings when you scream like that" as you are walking away. and let him carry on for as long as he needs to. Soon he will learn that you're not going to respond the way that he wants if he does that. Also, after he's calmed down try to teach him how to use his words. He may only be 2 but he can understand a lot more then it may seem. Explain to him that that behavior is not acceptable. That it's okay to get mad and frustrated and when he feels that way he can stomp his feet (for example, find something that works for you). When you take a behavior away from a child, you have to replace it with an acceptable behavior. Be as patient as you can be. These things take time. You can PM if you like my answer
    outstandingLove

    Answer by outstandingLove at 11:38 PM on Mar. 11, 2009

  • All children go through developmental stages. He is building his autonomy! Encourage him and try to find things that he can do on his own that will not leave him frustrated. MY kid would freak out as well. He is just as "normal" as everyone else. :o) Good Luck!!
    BoobooHealer

    Answer by BoobooHealer at 11:37 PM on Mar. 11, 2009

  • Any suggestions?
    lincsmom74

    Answer by lincsmom74 at 11:39 PM on Mar. 11, 2009

  • and would like a few more ideas. You have to find what is going to work best for YOUR child. Theres lots of ways you can encourage him to express himself and his new found autonomy while still minimazing his tantrums. Good luck!
    outstandingLove

    Answer by outstandingLove at 11:40 PM on Mar. 11, 2009

  • Help him realize that this behavior isn't favored. Don't play into it. As suggested, just walk away explaining that he is hurting Mommy with his screaming. Leave him in his room or a safe area and let him throw his fit. If you react to him, he is going to keep going.
    Mom1Stepmom1

    Answer by Mom1Stepmom1 at 12:01 AM on Mar. 12, 2009

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