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my four year old son will not stay in bed at night. he just runs out of his room laughing no matter how mad we get. he is a little behind in his verbal communication so we cant really have a sit down discussion with him. He just treats the whole thing like a game. It usually takes three hours to get him to fall asleep. weve tried everything we can think of. movies, lights off, music a snack before, different bedtimes, naps! we are at our witts end!!

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LadyDahl

Asked by LadyDahl at 5:54 PM on Mar. 16, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • What is his schedual and hat do you feed him?? Just caus ehe can not talk does not mean he can not listen. If he stays in bed he gets a sticker in a chart or something like that.
    IMAMOM2-2KIDS

    Answer by IMAMOM2-2KIDS at 5:55 PM on Mar. 16, 2009

  • I would put him back in a crib as punishment. he needs to know that having a bed he can get in and out of is a priveledge.
    Kbmancine

    Answer by Kbmancine at 5:56 PM on Mar. 16, 2009

  • Don't keep changing what you do. Stay consistant with one thing, and put your foot down. When he gets out be right there, and pick him up put him in bed no mater how many times it takes. Yeah he will get mad, and probably throw a fit, and cry, but if you really want to solve the problem you have to stay consistant.
    AK_aries

    Answer by AK_aries at 5:56 PM on Mar. 16, 2009

  • Also when he gets up do not talk to him take him straight back to bed time after time, huge pain but works well for us.
    IMAMOM2-2KIDS

    Answer by IMAMOM2-2KIDS at 5:56 PM on Mar. 16, 2009

  • How about this little thing we used to use called a good ole fashion spanking?? Works wonders. But, hey, you must enjoy what you are doing otherwise you might have considered this.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:56 PM on Mar. 16, 2009

  • whenever you put him back into bed dont say anything to him.just pick him up and leave him there.dont show him that its making you mad.hes probably "playing" because he sees he gets a response from you.
    naturepeace

    Answer by naturepeace at 5:57 PM on Mar. 16, 2009

  • He needs consistency, for starters. Pick one routine and stick to it. The longer you stick to the same routine, the more likely he will be to get used to it.

    I think one thing you should try as part of your routine is the silent treatment. Pick up your son, put him back in bed, and say NOTHING. This means don't scold him for being out of bed, don't tell him to stay in bed - be silent. Do this every single time he gets out of bed, and eventually (trust me!) he will get VERY bored of it. Toddlers will do anything for a response, even if it's an angry response, so the best thing you can do is take that pleasure out of it for him.

    Good luck!!
    aliceryannesmom

    Answer by aliceryannesmom at 6:00 PM on Mar. 16, 2009

  • imamom2 great answer!!!!! Also tell him he can read or color in coloring books in his room after trying to get him to sleep but no tv!! another thing maybe he's not busy enough during the day? Does he play just play enough? Maybe daycare of preschool's too structured for his personality right now. Maybe a longer bath time with mom kicking back in the doorway in a comfy chair to track him? I agree with imamom2 reward him somehow don't keep turning everyday bedtime into a punishment with anger.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:00 PM on Mar. 16, 2009

  • DUCT TAPE,,,Joking...I would put him to bed early then.3 hours early..Just keep on putting him in his bed and saying ,,time to go to sleep. He might not be very verbal..But he does under stand.

    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 6:03 PM on Mar. 16, 2009

  • Decide what you think is an appropriate bedtime. Make sure he has been to the bathroom, had a drink of water, and heard a bedtime story. You tell him one time that it is now time for him to go to bed. If he doesn't fall asleep right away, he is still to stay in bed. You tell him that if he gets up, you will spank his rear end. If he gets up, you spank his rear end and you put him back to bed with the same set of instructions. Every time he gets up, you spank his rear end, hard enough on bare skin that he feels it. It probably won't take more than two or three times, and he will be going to bed and staying there very nicely. He is battling your will, and he is winning. He will win until you make him stop.
    NannyB.

    Answer by NannyB. at 6:04 PM on Mar. 16, 2009

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