Big job! Making your older one feel still wanted and special is sooo important. Letting him help in small ways once the baby comes is good, including him in the baby care is helpful...and I can't stress enough to schedule special time with the older one without the baby, a time when the older one can count on as "just you and him". If you live near family or have a good friend to come watch the baby for an hour or so, take the older one to the library, or the park, or out for an icecream cone, just the two of you, and tell him how much you enjoy your "special" time with him. Tell him how proud you are of how he has welcomed the baby into the family and what a big help he is, even though you know at times it's hard for him! And tell him how much the baby loves him, too. See how he smiles at you, he loves his big brother! Hope this helps. Bless you and your family!
at 4:58 PM on Mar. 18, 2009