In 1983 I had a baby girl that I place up for adoption with some friends of a friend of mine. I barely knew them and they lived in another town and I thought this was best for all concerned. They had all the means of providing a good home for the child and under the circumstances this was the best discision for the child.
After 25 years the daughter I left behind, out of the clear blue calls me! I welcome her with open arms but at the same time I feel so guilty that I cannot do more for her. She now has two beautiful children of her own and there is so much I want to give all three of them. Not just spending time with them. Trying to give them everything that they possibly need and even things that they possibly want. Sometimes I find myself slightly depressed because I cannot give them everything. Should I be? Should I feel the guilt that I feel even though she tells me she had a good life. Help me here!!!
Asked by Anonymous at 5:34 AM on Mar. 18, 2009 in Adoption
Answer by randi1978 at 9:46 AM on Mar. 18, 2009
Answer by mommyheymommy at 10:29 AM on Mar. 18, 2009
My son just found me yesterday!!! It has been 21 years. I can totally identify with what you're feeling. Plus I was just talking to my oldest daughter yesterday morning about "guilt" that she & I have been experiencing. I think you should try everything you can to not let guilt take over, I believe we all do what we think is best at the time. I agree with the other two ladies above, LOVE above all else!! It means more than any material thing could ever mean! Congratulations Mama/Grandma, & Best of luck to you!
Answer by emf6874 at 12:31 PM on Mar. 18, 2009
Answer by spenml at 3:12 PM on Mar. 18, 2009
Answer by Iamgr8teful at 11:49 PM on Mar. 18, 2009
Answer by Love_My_Lil_One at 10:52 AM on Mar. 19, 2009
Answer by Joyfulwahm at 4:56 PM on Mar. 20, 2009