My best friend has a 12 year old son, she has her own set of beliefs and does her best to teach her son what those beliefs are and how to have a better, closer relationship with God. The problem is that her mother has a completly different set of beliefs and what a persons relationship with God should be. Long story short, he spent the weekend with grandma this past weekend, and when he came home monday morning he was a completly different child. Grandma has convinced him that her way is the ONLY way it should be and if he chooses to do it any other way he will spend eternity in hell, which she also told him is where his mother will be if he doesn't convince her to believe this way too. This is a normally happy, pretty well behaved child, who is now terrified to speak out of turn for fear that God will punish him. Grandma is the only family they have and she doesn't want to take her out of this life, but what else can she do?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 1:38 PM on Mar. 18, 2009 in Religion & Beliefs
Answer by NotPanicking at 1:44 PM on Mar. 18, 2009
Answer by BonesDragonDew at 1:45 PM on Mar. 18, 2009
I would not allow the G-Mom time alone with her G-child if she doesn't have the good sense to respect his parents wishes. The topics are unimportant in my opinion whether it is religion or another issue; the G-Ma needs to respect the parents. If she is unable to do that the G-Ma has made the choice to be less involved in her G-childs life in my opinion. I would not let anyone instruct my children in a way that I didn't feel was for thier well-being. TheG-Ma believes she is doing the right hing or she is controlling but, regardless these choices aren't up to her in my opinion.
Answer by BubbaLuva at 1:47 PM on Mar. 18, 2009
Answer by Praying at 2:00 PM on Mar. 18, 2009
Answer by Marwill at 2:01 PM on Mar. 18, 2009
This is a tough one for me since Gma might very well be right.
Nope, G-Ma is not right. The child is not hers. The child isn't being physically harmed or misstreated so really it's none of her business. She needs to respect the wishes of the child's mother wheather she agrees with them or not. There is absolutely no excuse to go behind a parents back and brainwash a child. There is absolutely no excuse to put fear into a child's heart when all they should be thinking about is being a child. I've went through this so I sympathise with the Mom. I have no problem telling a grandparent to cool it and keep their religious opinions to themselves if they want to have a relationship at all with their grandchildren.
Answer by ShutterBug77 at 2:21 PM on Mar. 18, 2009
She needs to speak with G-ma and explain to her that tho she has her own beliefs, it is not hers and how she is raising HER child...
Using fear is not the right way and by allowing this will only push the child away from religion in the future... (IMO)
Answer by gmasboy at 2:30 PM on Mar. 18, 2009
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Answer by jamicofer at 3:14 PM on Mar. 18, 2009