he makes me feel like no man has ever made me feel. but at the same time, i know i am such an incredibly horrible person for doing this. I love my husband. but i love him ......more. i dont know what to do. i dont want to stop talking to him, and my marriage is pretty much destroyed anyway. i mean, he always gets his way about everything, and if he doesnt, he throws a big grownup scary, angry fit until he does. and when we fight, he blames it on me. but i dont want my kids to not have a dad, and i dont want to be selfish. I guess i just need to come to terms with the fact that i'll never be happy. I have never loved someone as much as i love him.....yet hes not the one i'm supposed to love this much. what do i do? someone please help.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:32 PM on Mar. 18, 2009 in Relationships
It's easy for someone to make you feel great when you don't have to live with them 24 hrs. a day! You may walk away from your marriage, and your kids' father, for some guy that when reality sets in, is no better than what you have now. Get over yourself, talk to your husband, and start working things out!
Answer by Anonymous at 10:37 PM on Mar. 18, 2009
Answer by KaceesMom at 10:44 PM on Mar. 18, 2009
This is for KaceesMom!
Answer by Anonymous at 10:47 PM on Mar. 18, 2009
Answer by hautemama83 at 11:13 PM on Mar. 18, 2009
its about sharing life's stresses and responsibilities and thats a big commitment, were you young when you got married....yes.....but that doesn;t mean you should use that as an excuse, you still made that commitment not only to your husband but to yourself and God also. Anyhow like I said before stop talking to this guy NOW before it goes too far, and start looking for counseling and try to look at all the happy positive things in your marriage instead of all the negative GL
Answer by hautemama83 at 11:16 PM on Mar. 18, 2009
I agree with anon 10:37, everything seems wonderful when you don't have the stresses of reality nipping at your heels! But if you were to move in together it would start! He doesn't put the seat down, he forgot to take out the trash or he leaves his dirty clothes in a trail to the bathroom! And then to bring in the stresses with children! It won't seem so fairytale like. I'd deal with your current relationship first before moving on to anything else. If it's meant to be, he'll still be there when it's all over.
Answer by Austinsmom35 at 11:47 PM on Mar. 18, 2009
Answer by AmandaI1021 at 11:50 PM on Mar. 18, 2009
Look!! When there is trouble on the home front it is easy to think the grass is greener else where. When you start thinking along those lines you are not committing yourself to your marriage or children. You have to look inward right now and see what you can really bring to this marriage. Yes you said your husband is Bi Polar but you took vows to take care of him...sickness and health. Focus on your relationship with your husband. Don't fall for the other guys sob story. Sure the attention from the other guy feels good but it will not last. New feelings always feel great but they do not stand the test of time. Right now what you are going through with your husband IS a life challenge. Don't run from it. That is what you and your husband needs now is for YOU to be strong. Take charge of your home and get into couples counseling. Focus on the good in your marriage and start from there.
Answer by pnwmom at 11:59 PM on Mar. 18, 2009
Answer by pnwmom at 12:03 AM on Mar. 19, 2009