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what to do and not to do in potty training

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Asked by babygirl432 at 2:12 PM on Mar. 19, 2009 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Ecourage your child to sit on the potty but don't insist or push them to pooh or pee. It will happen in time. Reward them if they do go but don't bribe them with the reward. Take your child with you to buy them their big kid underware, even if you're not ready to put them in them yet. They will be excited about what they chose and have something to work for.
    Best of luck with you, oh and be patient and calm. It can be upsetting when they don't get it right away or have accident's. It will happen.

    Answer by AmandaH321 at 2:16 PM on Mar. 19, 2009

  • Don't make them sit on the potty until they actually pee or poop just because you think they need to. My ex-sil did this with one of her kids...and I witnessed it. She made that little girl sit on the potty for over an hour even when my niece started screaming because her legs hurt. "You pee in the potty you can get down".

    Answer by TiccledBlue at 2:18 PM on Mar. 19, 2009

  • Do's":
    Be patient
    Be calm
    Be supportive
    Recognize that this is the first complex task your child is deliberetly setting out to learn.
    Recognize that set backs are common.
    Recognize that your child's mood will affect how things go on any given day. Toddlers in a "negative phase" won't do well.
    Acknowledge that changes in the house will affect things - visitors, trips, new babies, new pets, moving to a new bed, etc - will all cause set backs.
    Recognize that it took you years to learn to drive a car decently... it will take her years to master using the potty.
    Remember that accidents are common into grade school - that's part of taking years to master the task.
    Remember that night time has NOTHING to do with daytime training. No amount of day time mastery, no amount of punishment or lectures, will change what your child's body does while your child is sound asleep.

    Answer by kaycee14 at 2:18 PM on Mar. 19, 2009

  • Be consistent. Reward any amount of success. Get their favorite stickers. Buy them a special present if they do both jobs on the potty. Let them know they are a big boy/girl when they make progress. You can even read them a story while they sit on the potty to make it a special time.

    I have 6 children. My youngest boy (age 4) had the most trouble. He still needs a lot of reminders to go. He'll be 5 in April but he's getting there finally. My husband promised him his pick of a toy if he went standing up a few weeks ago and he finally did it. Now he does it that way every time he goes potty.

    Be patient, they will want to do it themselves eventually.

    Answer by annjordan at 2:21 PM on Mar. 19, 2009

  • My recommendation -- no pull-ups or training pants. We went straight to underwear and threw away the diapers. Just wore underwear for a few days and she started getting it pretty quickly. We didn't make her sit there and wait for something to happen, we moved her there when she started to go. It was a lot of cleanup in the beginning, but she was trained in a few days and never asked for a diaper again. Lots of kids think of pull-ups exactly as diapers.

    Answer by EmilySusan at 2:41 PM on Mar. 19, 2009

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