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what would u say??? don't bash me im going thru enough as it is

ok your bf has a baby with this other chick. you were with him for 6 months b4 the baby was even born and now you are married and you get threatening messages from the baby mama. ill qoute them they swear but suck it up. "im gonna ram ur ass for child support u will get a paper in 2 weeks to start everything then u n ur dog of a wife will be payin up or jail cuz in MI they can take her money (fyi it isnt tru i asked a lawyer. n hes making money from uia so they cant take ne of mine) lol i know im mean oh well" and " i will ruin you so bad that baby will be in foster care when i get done with you, im a bitch from hell" shes trying to ruin our lives and her ex husbands live too. obviously i saved the messages to show the court if she tries to say stuff to show that it was premeditated. but OMG i dont know what to do shes driving me nuts i wish she would just take the money n go away, why would she want to do that to us??

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Asked by Anonymous at 3:50 PM on Mar. 19, 2009 in Relationships

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  • I would call the police and get a restraining order.

    Answer by gramsmom at 3:52 PM on Mar. 19, 2009

  • she's jealous and crazy

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:52 PM on Mar. 19, 2009

  • Beacuse she wants his attention...
    The best of luck to you...and I'm sorry you're going thru this. Be patient and kind and remember...the first one to start yelling in court is ALWAYS the bad guy. She'll dig her own grave. HUGS!

    Answer by tat2edmommyof2 at 3:53 PM on Mar. 19, 2009

  • Some people are so damn childish!

    Answer by MizAnn at 3:53 PM on Mar. 19, 2009

  • She is going to get the child support. Let the B*&^% be smug about it-don't let it get to you.

    She wants a reaction-really bad it looks like. Don't let it bother you so much-ignore her. Tell her that the courts will handle it and that the baby SHOULD be taken care of. She will be bothered more by you NOT getting involved in this catty BS than fighting back.

    Be the bigger person. She is clearly jealous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:54 PM on Mar. 19, 2009

  • she jealous!! get a restraining order on her!!

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:54 PM on Mar. 19, 2009

  • She is just to drive you two apart. She really wants him and figured that if she got you frustrated enough you would leave him. So she can have him. Don't let it get to you. If you pray. Pray for her.

    Answer by twdivine24 at 3:54 PM on Mar. 19, 2009

  • wow thats all i have to say is wow lol

    Answer by masonsmommy921 at 3:54 PM on Mar. 19, 2009

  • keep on doing what your doing, save the text, it will benefit you in the long run. I was in a very similar situation w/ my ex. Kill her with kindness, & save EVERYTHING you can that can make her look bad. It will help you. My ex actually won custody of his son this way. don't react to her negative behavior, just act like nothing happened. She will also try to record anything bad on y'alls part, & i mean anything! So do your best to stay calm, laugh at her ridiculous text's & save everything you can that will show the court how evil this woman is. GOOD LUCK! And really do the kill her w/ kindess thing.....nothing gets under evil peoples' skin worse than being kind to them.

    Answer by samurai_chica at 3:54 PM on Mar. 19, 2009

  • Have stupid people not learned anything from court tv? Get a print out of these text messages and save any recordings. You may be able to use them in court. Don't respond either. And a restraining order is a good idea as well.

    Answer by MamaChamp at 3:55 PM on Mar. 19, 2009

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