3 grades have dropped from b's to C's on his progress report, and he has got his first girlfriend- being disruptive in class- Now the teacher wants to have a conference with all teachers and counsler. We are making him break up wirth girlfriend- no friends and activities- his birthday is canceled -we were supposed to take 2 friends to the snow-
I feel bad-but I guess this is part of being a parent-are we being to hard?
Answer by WhatevaItTakes at 9:09 PM on Mar. 19, 2009
Answer by Goldenbrowny at 9:22 PM on Mar. 19, 2009
Answer by gammie at 9:23 PM on Mar. 19, 2009
If he is only disruptive in one class I would think it is something going on between him and the teacher, he is bored in that class, or he is showing off for someone (maybe the GF?) who is only in that class. I would definitely meet with the teacher and see what (s)he says. My son was having problems in only one class in middle school and he kept insisting "the teacher hates me" and once I emailed her a few times and talked to her on the phone and checked the assignments and his work several times I realized he was right she definitely did not like him.
I took away my DS's b-day this year but then felt so bad I let him earn it back. Is it far enough away to do that?
Answer by goaliemom93 at 9:23 PM on Mar. 19, 2009
Answer by JCRestoredme at 11:09 PM on Mar. 19, 2009
I agree on rethinking the break up with the GF. You can't really enforce it and I think the message is better that he has to keep up on his school work, regardless of his friends or other activities. Having friends and especially girlfriends is important to one's self-esteem, so I wouldn't try to challenge that.
I like the comment by JCRestoredme... if you can, do it. Sometimes you have to embarass your kids they way they do you. I give them realistic examples of 'do unto others'!
Perhaps before going that far, I'd try to find one more maintainable punishment (like taking away PC time, or a cell phone... something that hits his socializing without you telling him who he can or cannot see) and try that as a first step and see if he reacts. And you might give him a reward (like an outing with friends or a sleepover) if he gets to a B+, etc.
Answer by PhillyinFrance at 10:21 AM on Mar. 20, 2009
Answer by tyfry7496 at 6:47 PM on Mar. 20, 2009
Answer by tyfry7496 at 6:50 PM on Mar. 20, 2009
Answer by Dawn2plus1 at 6:51 PM on Mar. 25, 2009