This question has stemmed out of another question asked on here.
Is it really wrong of the adoptive parents to tell the adopted child they could not conceive a child? Such as a woman who has had cancer or other problems and had to have a hysterectomy or was left unable to carry a child. Would it really bother the child if the mom said "I was very sick (or another reason) and my tummy isn't able to hold a baby"? Eventually the child is going to grow up and realize the reason why most adoptions (especially domestic infant adoptions) occur is because a couple is unable to have biological children. Even young children may make the connection of "Well, why did I grow in Birthmom's tummy and not your tummy?". Wouldn't it be better to be truthful or is it really in the adoptee's best interest to wait til their older or until they figure it out on their own?
Asked by Anonymous at 9:34 AM on Mar. 20, 2009 in Adoption
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 7:43 PM on Mar. 20, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 9:36 AM on Mar. 20, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:53 AM on Mar. 20, 2009
I do not think it was wrong of my mother to tell me I was adopted and that she was unable to have kids. I have always known that I was adopted and I wouldn't change that for the world. If my parents would have hidden that from me my whole life, then I found out when I was older, I would have felt deceived. When kids are young, they do not need the exact reason you chose adoption, only after they are old enough to realize what is being told to them do I feel they should get the whole truth.
My parents told us very early that we were adopted, but only explained why when we were older and asked the questions. My parents were (and still are) always open on the subject. They have never turned away from our questions.
Answer by IZs_mommy at 12:04 PM on Mar. 20, 2009
Answer by onethentwins at 12:32 PM on Mar. 20, 2009
Answer by mommylovesu28 at 1:02 PM on Mar. 20, 2009
Answer by MommyAddie at 1:41 PM on Mar. 20, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 2:10 PM on Mar. 20, 2009
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 4:42 PM on Mar. 20, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 7:15 PM on Mar. 20, 2009