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but he says he still loves me...

my ex broke up with me cuz of the baby thing and hes put me through hell and i want back but at the same time i wanna move on but i want him to be ther for the baby but he said no and through all this he just told me like 2 mins ago that hes still in love with me so im like hella confused rite now

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lanlan

Asked by lanlan at 7:26 PM on Mar. 20, 2009 in Relationships

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  • He likes to play mind games, maybe?

    Words are cheap...make him prove he wants you back. If he starts up the B.S. again, you know you're just his favorite punching bag.
    timelessglass

    Answer by timelessglass at 7:30 PM on Mar. 20, 2009

  • ok one more time here sweetie i know your young and you think you will never find another man again but you will. He wants you but not the baby well guess what thats not a option. You need to just worry about your baby and forget the looser. Hes not a man and you cant make him into one. Hes the type that wants his cake and to be able to eat it to. Hes giving you the run around if he truly loved you then being their for his child wouldnt matter he would do both.
    MOVE ON. You need to grow up and take care of yourself and your baby. That baby now has to come first and thats what matters. Relize this early NO MAN is worth loosing your baby over and you should never put one befor your baby.
    Jaxsmommy09

    Answer by Jaxsmommy09 at 7:30 PM on Mar. 20, 2009

  • this is all too confusing!! you say he doesnt want nothing to do with the child but yet he still loves you but you also want to move on...ask yourself what you want for yourself and baby IF he already left, there's a reason he did.

    you cant love someone and then leave! think about what he's doing to you and your child, your just thinking of him and his feellings...i just remembered, HE LEFT YOU.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:30 PM on Mar. 20, 2009

  • girl, if he doesn't want to be there for the baby... run as far away as you can.... that is about to be your main concern and love and if he anit down for that, screw him
    JuLiAnSmOmMy317

    Answer by JuLiAnSmOmMy317 at 7:30 PM on Mar. 20, 2009

  • wow...think of the options you have here.
    americansugar80

    Answer by americansugar80 at 7:32 PM on Mar. 20, 2009

  • Hey in a past post people were say you should take him to court for money or child support....just be careful because of your ages he could be looking at a crime, which would result in him having to register as a sex offender........I DO NOT AGREE with this but that is where the law is a bit grey...so please just really think about any actions you take before you take them.
    In regards to this question if he says he loves you then he needs to show you, actions speak louder then words. Dont be someones side kick and doormat you and your baby deserve way more then that.
    LimoMOM5

    Answer by LimoMOM5 at 7:39 PM on Mar. 20, 2009

  • no, he's in love with himself and he's a selfish piece of nothing. If you have the strength then move on. He's showing you what kind of man he is, not worth your time and he'd be a terrible dad to your child.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:40 PM on Mar. 20, 2009

  • Aww, sweetie! If a "man" is focused on anything other than how to support (i.e., take care of in every way) his child, he's a boy. And, boys will be boys. Even though you're young, you are now faced with the ultimate lesson in adulthood: taking full responsibility for your actions. You have to remember that your baby is number 1 and on the way! Babydaddy or not. You and your child deserve your full attention. Honey, dust your shoulder off and keep it movin'! Good luck!
    jonosmama

    Answer by jonosmama at 8:07 PM on Mar. 20, 2009

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