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want 2 leave him becuz of the abuse but we have kids and i dont have family 2 turn n he wont let me have any of my girls cuz he knows im co-dependant

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 9:30 PM on Mar. 20, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Please. Get to a shelter before he starts abusing them.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 9:34 PM on Mar. 20, 2009

  • CALL A SHELTER NOW AND GET HELP MOVING OUT!!!!!!! DO THIS FOR YOUR GIRLS AND YOURSELF!! DO YOU WANT YOUR GIRLS TO GROW UP THINKING THAT IT IS OKAY TO BE ABUSED? STOP THE CYCYLE NOW...BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE.
    tyfry7496

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 9:38 PM on Mar. 20, 2009

  • leave him and take the kids with you go to the shelter go to a friends house call your family and tell them what is going on maybe they can help you come and live with them just get out if he is abusing you and the kids i would love 5 min with him he would never hit a anyone again ever if you stay it will get worse and your kids will see it and when they get older they will do it to there familys so please leave him
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:38 PM on Mar. 20, 2009

  • Go to a shelter, it sucks, it's hard but it's better than the alternative.
    Steff107

    Answer by Steff107 at 9:41 PM on Mar. 20, 2009

  • File an emergency temp. costody on grounds of fear of potential abuse. File police reports on your abuse. Contact womans abuse clinics and find an attorney. There are many that can help in this for free. Make notes on every thing he has ever done to abuse you or anything towards the kids. Get any body who ever posibly saw any thing to write statments. All of you get out as soon as possible he could hurt your kids or even kill one of you. You also don't want your kids thinking this is the best they can get or deserve. They may end up repeat the cycle and end up in the same situation if you don't make a stand now. I hope this helps you. If you ever need to just talk. I'm here. Good luck!!! And don't worry if you get out it will get better.
    hot-mama86

    Answer by hot-mama86 at 9:44 PM on Mar. 20, 2009

  • serious question. what do you mean co-dependant
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:47 PM on Mar. 20, 2009

  • Hot Mama gave good advice. I'd say run to a shelter but you're afraid. Can you take small steps? If you stop by the shelter you could get advice and feel safer and stronger about leaving. Abuse is wrong my friend. No matter what, you cannot stay, it will get worse. Forget the codependence, it's useless if you're dead or hurt significantly, including the emotional scars. Try to get out.
    jeanclaudia

    Answer by jeanclaudia at 11:08 PM on Mar. 20, 2009

  • Get a life insurance policy - go camping - and push him off a cliff. You better wake up quick. If you think your kids need that than you are crazy. That is child abuse. You are better off in a shelter than with a wife beater - or are you?
    tash2texas

    Answer by tash2texas at 11:09 PM on Mar. 20, 2009

  • tash thats funny I wish we could get away with that shit. To bad it fix alot.
    hot-mama86

    Answer by hot-mama86 at 2:23 AM on Mar. 21, 2009

  • hot mama gave you great advice sweetie i'd do what she advised good luvk
    dee778

    Answer by dee778 at 9:38 AM on Mar. 21, 2009

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