I'm 39 and I've been married for 14 years. I have 3 children, ages 6, 4 and 18 months. For all these years of marriage I've been hoping, praying, asking, begging, screaming, crying and pleading for my husband to be more emotionally connected to me. He's very controlling and sometimes emotionay abusive. The problem is that it happens in phases. He can be the most sweet, funny and caring husband and father at times and then he's mad and withdrawn again. I've lived on an emotional roller coaster for 14 years and I want to get off.
I look back over my life and I have deep wounds of hurt from him. He wasn't there for me during the most difficult times in my life. For all three of my births, he wasn't there for me emotionally or physically. When I'm sick or stressed he says it's my problem. If he hurts me and I tell him he doesn't apologize or he acts like I'm over reacting. Do I leave or hold out hope for change?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:41 PM on Mar. 21, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 11:44 PM on Mar. 21, 2009
Answer by MamaChamp at 11:44 PM on Mar. 21, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:45 PM on Mar. 21, 2009
Have yall tried counseling? Well to be honest, 14yrs I would pack up my kids and go. I wouldnt put up the emotional abuse anymore. My ex did that to me for 4 yrs and I packed up and left. 3yrs into our relationship he hit me on several occasion and I had to get out, got out right after our 4th anniversary. I say leave thats just me though.
Answer by Anonymous at 11:47 PM on Mar. 21, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:58 PM on Mar. 21, 2009
Answer by admckenzie at 1:04 AM on Mar. 22, 2009