If you are smacking his hands when he get into things he should not, you are teaching him that hitting someone is acceptable. He does not understand why you are smacking his hand and how there is a difference between yours and his. So first of all you need to come up with a different way of responding to his getting into things. Most of the time redirection from thos things helps. Remove him from it calmly, and just say,"No touching, lets play with_____. Do not make a big deal when he does touch things he shouldn't. Often little ones do things over and over because they like the response they get from you. If you yell and get all upset, this gives him attention and quite a show! He will do it again. If he continues to hit, then sit him in a time out area away from toys, TV, etc. Say in a calm voice, "This is time out for hitting mommy", we use easy touches or nice hands" Show him what an easy touch is.
at 2:51 PM on Mar. 22, 2009