I have two stepboys, 6 and 4. I love them to the moon and back and make sure that every child in my household is treated fairly.
A lot of people ask, "do you love them as your own?" and I don't think it's really the question that's being asked. If you love your kid/stepkid, then you love your kid/stepkid. There's no quantification or comparison needed.
The relevent queston is "do you treat them the same way?" Well, there are always going to be adjustments made for having two households. I can register my kid for activities, but I can't register my stepkid because his mother refuses to allow us to the point of getting a judge to decree who can sign children up for extracurricular activities and when. I'm not going to punish my child by not signing him up for anything because his brothers' mom has control issues, ya know?
Fair isn't always equal, but every kid in my house feels loved and cherished.
at 11:01 AM on Mar. 22, 2009