So I KNOW my three year old daughter doesn't understand masturbating in a sexual way, but she seems to have discovered that pushing on her private areas feels good (at least that's my assumption). Whenever she is laying down for a nap or to go to bed, she's always got her hands down there, and now she is putting her hands in her pants. She's delayed, so she's not potty trained. For one thing, it's dirty since she's in diapers still, and for another it's just sort of embarrassing. In addition, I think she's hurting herself because now whenever I go to change her diaper, if I very gently wipe her vagina, she say ow and pulls away from me. Also, I know this is something she discovered on her own, she's never away from me, so I know there's no abuse issue.
How do I get her to stop this behavior? It's been going on for nearly a year! I tell her that she needs to keep her hands out of her pants, and she just bawls. Help!
Asked by Anonymous at 2:29 AM on Mar. 24, 2009 in General Parenting
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It's VERY normal & innocent. Of course it feels different down there, & she will figure that out one way or another. I remember when my daughter started figuring it out i told her "don't do that it doesn't feel good" but then i thought....wait it actually does feel good...lol! I told her of she is going to touch it down there, that she needs to do it in the bathtub, because if her dirty fingers are feeling around down there it can get hurt. She has now grown out of it, i guess she figured it out & then left it alone once she learned things are sensitive down there. It is TOTALLY normal & i wouldn't worry about it. Make sure to tell her that if her hands are dirty, it will make her burn down there. Tell her it's only ok to do in the bathtub where she is clean.
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