Ok, explain this one. My DH was molested by an uncle when he was around 10. He was left with the uncle along with his sister and brother...he is not sure if they were molested also, while his parents were out of town. He has never told.
Now my DD has a friend of 18 who has an uncle trying to do the same. Will sit next to her and throw a blanket over them and touch her thigh. Well she told my DD who told us. My DH is soooo upset that this girl is refusing to tell her mom. Yet at the same time it happened to him and he would never tell because "it would cause hurt and trouble for his mom" I don't get it. Why is he so hell bent on DD's friend telling when he was a victim of this himself and never told?
Asked by Anonymous at 10:08 AM on Mar. 24, 2009 in General Parenting
Answer by theheartbaby at 10:12 AM on Mar. 24, 2009
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Answer by gammie at 10:19 AM on Mar. 24, 2009
It is NOT too late for your husband to tell. In all likelihood statues have long since expired and no proof exists. What can be gained then? HIs emotional well being. If this uncle is still alive bet your butt he is still molesting children. Your hub needs finally get rid of this burden. It is not his to carry. He was an innocent child. I am the survivor of molestation/abuse from a family member. I did not tell until long after I was grown. The sense of relief was tremendous for me. I also learned by telling that several other people in the family had fallen prey to him. As for your DD friend. She needs to tell. If she doesn't..YOU need to tell for her. Offer to go with her. Any touch that makes you feel uncomfortable is WRONG. Period.
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