Me & my husband have been together for almost 8 years. We have been married for 7 of them. I am 6mths pregnant and sex is just really uncomfortable for me. He said he understood and that was fine. Well it has only been 2 days since we had sex. He is being such an asshole. And his bad mood always stems back to not having sex. He said that the only way he can be emotionally connected to me is if he is able to be physically connected to me. I am not going to lay there and be in pain just so he can get his jolly's off. That is stupid to me.
I told him that if it is such a big deal then go find someone else to stick his d*ck in. I'm tired of being guilted into sex. I also told him that marriage is not based solely on sex and that two people don't need to f*ck every day to love each other. He does not care. Instead he walks around taking his anger out on me and the kids by yelling at us all the time. I don't know what to do.
Asked by Anonymous at 11:02 AM on Mar. 24, 2009 in Relationships
The problem doesn't seem to be sex. He's using sex because he's probably scared of real intimacy with you. As far as him being jobless...that's a real problem. Tell him he needs to get a job or get lost so you can get child support enforcement involved. I wouldn't advise that you continue with the attitude that he should go screw someone else because with the way things are going now, he just might and would you be willing to live with him as a family if he made a habit of screwing other people? You said what you said out of anger because 1) he has intimacy problems and you probably feel like sex is a chore and just screwing since he isn't "connecting" with you on a deeper level. Also know that you are pregnant and the way you feel about sex is normal. If you want things to work out, you need to seek family therapy. If not, then let him go.
Answer by legalmommy101 at 12:31 PM on Mar. 24, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:05 AM on Mar. 24, 2009
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Answer by LoriKeet at 11:08 AM on Mar. 24, 2009
Well, you need to understand that men really do express their love through sex, and it really IS a way for some men to feel closer to their love. You should WANT to help him out, your his wife, do you really want him having sex with other woman? It probably killed his feelings when you said that, that was kind of rude. You need to go to your gyno & see what is wrong down there, there are plenty of things you can do to help that. I feel sorry for your husband, he needs some lovin & you not willing to help him out. there are other things you can do besides vaginal sex.
Answer by samurai_chica at 11:09 AM on Mar. 24, 2009
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Answer by Anonymous at 11:16 AM on Mar. 24, 2009
Answer by older at 11:49 AM on Mar. 24, 2009
There are plenty of ways to have sex without penetration.
Answer by beeky at 11:51 AM on Mar. 24, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 12:55 PM on Mar. 24, 2009