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Alcoholisim & Pregnancy?

I must admit I am the worst mother.... What pregnant mother can't give up alcohol while she is pregnant? Who puts her child at risk like that? Well, alcoholism runs in my family.... and any other excuse I could think of, but you can't really excuse that behavior can you? I drank far more than I should have while I was pregnant with my 3rd child; he is now 1 year old. My older two kids were walking at 11months, Keegan is not. They had their first 3 words by 12 months, Keegan doesn't even say 'mama'... He crawls, he eats tables foods, he even started pointing to things last week. Keegan doesn't wave hello, doesn't know how to play with a phone... My husban suggested that Keegan is behind because of my drinking when I was pregnant with him. What should I do, what have I done? Where can I get help for me and my son? I'm so embarassed!

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 7:13 PM on Mar. 24, 2009 in Pregnancy

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  • http://www.aa.org/lang/en/meeting_finder.cfm?origpage=29
    jhj4ever

    Answer by jhj4ever at 7:19 PM on Mar. 24, 2009

  • Get some information on Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS). Your child may have FAS or Fetal Alcohol or Fetal Alcohol Effect (FAE). Sadly, alcohol has the potential to do much more harm to unborn babies than illegal drugs like crack, heroin, cocaine, meth etc. because of the way it stunts brain growth. Know one knows how much or how little alcohol exposure is needed. Effects tend to be worse later in pregnancy when the brain is really growing. You can start at the National Organization on Fetal Alcohol Syndrome: http://www.nofas.org/

    maggiemom2000

    Answer by maggiemom2000 at 7:23 PM on Mar. 24, 2009

  • I'm not sure but have you got him tested for autism? sounds like he has a hard time with social skills, I worked in a preschool a while back that had a special class for autistic children and I learned a lot, since he isn't talking that is a sign, Also if you notice that he doesn't look you in the eyes. I would talk to your ped, if they refuse to do the test push for it...a lot of doctors think that you can't diagnose it that early but if you have a good doctor he or she will work with you to see whats going on.
    gettingfat89

    Answer by gettingfat89 at 7:37 PM on Mar. 24, 2009

  • You ask what mother doesn't give up alcohol while she is pregnant - AN ALCOHOLIC. FAS is a real possibility for you little one, have it checked out. BE honest with the pediatrician about the amount you drank while pregnant, that is only fair to your child to get the necessary help.
    May i suggest finding a local AA meeting, start attending, suggest your husband attend Alanon meetings, so he can be on board with your recovery. You can't be the best mom you can be if you're still drinking. Think about your children. I know I couldn't be the best mom if I was stil drinking - been sober 10 years. email me if you need.
    chuggerboysmom

    Answer by chuggerboysmom at 7:54 PM on Mar. 24, 2009

  • All I can say from being a recovered alcoholic for almost 2 years now, You have to want it! If you dont really desperately want to get help, nothing is going to help you. But if you want it bad enough, go to AA meetings, Sometimes those arent the best things to do though...I know i had to seclude myself from alot of people when I quit. I went to one meeting and went and drank afterwards becuz it just depressed me more. The best way to do it is the way that works for you! As for your child, I agree with a pp, it sounds more like autism to me. Have him checked for it! From what you are describing it doesnt sound like something that alcohol will do to a child. I mean its possible but those usually are not the effects of it! So get him checked! Good luck on everything hun, and hang in there. I know its hard. Ive been clean for 2 years this May, and I still have a hard time sometime, but not doing it is worth it!
    HayHayMarie2009

    Answer by HayHayMarie2009 at 9:16 PM on Mar. 24, 2009

  • Here are some links that have LOADS of info: FAS Community Resource Center http://come-over.to/FASCRC/articles.htm



    Center for Disease Control and Prevention: FASD http://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/fas/


    The FAS Family Resource Institute http://www.fetalalcoholsyndrome.org/

    maggiemom2000

    Answer by maggiemom2000 at 11:51 AM on Mar. 25, 2009

  • wow...that is very sad. Have u tried talking to a doc about this??
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:25 PM on Mar. 25, 2009

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