Ok, so how many of you mothers out there have an OK marriage....nothing bad or terrible...but have found yourself falling out of love with your husband?
My husband is addicted to video games. When he comes home, thats all he does. If I am home, he leaves all the house hold responsibilities to me to handle including our 16 month old son...(I am a stay at home mom) Its not that I dont love being a mom, I do and I dont see it as job, but its hard work. I hate to look at him and see him sitting on his ass. I will find myself asking him to watch our son to go take a poop.....for the sake of getting away. We have faught about this more and more. He works all day and supports us and hates his job. He sees us as "going from one job I hate to another job at home I cant stand at times." I don't know what to do. I don't think I am inlove with him any more.
Asked by Anonymous at 2:11 PM on Mar. 26, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by mommaruth07 at 2:22 PM on Mar. 26, 2009
Answer by feesharose at 2:29 PM on Mar. 26, 2009
Is it that you dont love him.. or you dont love the situation? there is a big difference. Many couples get in a situation where one (or both) doesnt feel appreciated. being a SAHM is hard and you need a break too. Talk to him. dont be confrontational. Let him know you appreciate all he does so that you can be at home with your son. Make sure you are doing your part (not saying you arent) by keeping the house clean and handling the house the way you should. It is your "job" to handle that if u are going to stay home. Let him have an hour after he gets home to "unwind". But explain to him after that he needs to help with his son so you too can have a break. maybe have someone watch your son so u guys can go out to dinner and find ways to compromise without either one having to do all the evening "chores". Make sure he feels appreciated and let him know you need the same. good luck. I am praying for u both
Answer by Tzutchka at 2:35 PM on Mar. 26, 2009