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i really dont want to clean

anytime i clean our house, DH come home doesnt notice its clean and trashes it with anything he touches. and then leaves and hang out with his buddies while im taking care of the baby and the house

im sick of it...what the hell should i do?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 3:41 PM on Mar. 26, 2009 in Relationships

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  • lay down the law
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:41 PM on Mar. 26, 2009

  • LET HIM KNOW.
    TELL HIM THAT YOU WORKED HARD CLEANING,
    AND HE JUST MESSED ALL YOUR HARD WORK UP.
    MEN AREN'T MIND READERS AND ALOT OF TIMES THEY
    DONT EVEN NOTICE WHATS RIGHT IN FRONT OF HIM..
    LIKE A CLEAN HOUSE.
    YOU CAN'T REALLY GET TOO MAD UNTIL YOU LET
    HIM KNOW THAT HE'S PISSING YOU OFF.
    ONCE YOU LET HIM KNOW AND HE
    CONTINUES... THATS WHEN YOU CAN PUT HIM
    IN THE DOGHOUSE.
    bronxcouture

    Answer by bronxcouture at 3:42 PM on Mar. 26, 2009

  • Ask him to help you. Also point out that you would appreciate it if he could put stuff back in its place. It won't happen but it might make him more aware.
    FuzNet

    Answer by FuzNet at 3:43 PM on Mar. 26, 2009

  • Try telling him how you feel... If you do not tell him, he doesn;t really know. If you have already told him, then do as the other anon says and lay down the law
    onyourterms

    Answer by onyourterms at 3:43 PM on Mar. 26, 2009

  • Don't clean...he will eventually notice that he doesn't have a maid and a nanny anymore!

    legalmommy101

    Answer by legalmommy101 at 3:46 PM on Mar. 26, 2009

  • Stop cleaning for awhile, then he will noticed the mess, get tired of it and either grip at you to clean it and you can lay it on him or he will clean it himself.... My husband will do the later!
    soonmommyof3

    Answer by soonmommyof3 at 3:56 PM on Mar. 26, 2009

  • Clean up after you and baby. If its his leave it laying there. Then when he gets mad say, well only your mess is left out so maybe if you wherent such a slob...

    Or you can do it nicely and just present it to him: Look I just wanted you to see how much of a mess you leave for me! Please could you be neater or help me out a little I just cant handle it all!
    amber710

    Answer by amber710 at 3:59 PM on Mar. 26, 2009

  • I hate when people tell you to just stop cleaning. It's silly. You don't clean the house to make him happy. You clean the house because it needs to get done and you do it for you. He probably doesn't even realize he is doing it. Talk to him about it. Don't jump down his throat, but calmy tell him what he is doing and how it bothers you. People are more receptive to ideas when they are coming from a calm and friendly tone. If there is something that he messes up every day, ask him to start taking care of it. It's hard to really understand without specific details. But you could encourage him to help with little things. I would bet that if you pointed it out, he might be more careful. The truth is, houses get dirty. That's just what happens when you live in them. So regular cleaning will always be needed. Maybe there are some things he can help with and then he will see what a pain it is.
    DDry

    Answer by DDry at 4:01 PM on Mar. 26, 2009

  • Talk to him about it. He shouldn't just leave you with a dirty house. If it's getting overwhelming for you maybe he should either help out or get some help to help you out. It's not that expensive.
    SylviaNCali

    Answer by SylviaNCali at 5:14 PM on Mar. 26, 2009

  • my df used to do the same untill i said i just spent 8 hours cleaning and minding our son while i was doing it, how would you like it if someone did that to you at work and then left you to sort out the mess ..his answer was i'd be so bloody mad...point taken end of problem .
    dee778

    Answer by dee778 at 1:33 PM on Mar. 27, 2009

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