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I feel so tricked. (Please dont be mean, I feel bad enough as it is)

Ok so with my ex I always stressed using condoms but he would beg to do it without one. Two times I gave in after he assured me he would pull out. Well, sure enough, I got pregnant. For five months he tried to convince me to get an abortion and then after he realized I had passed the mark to get one he tried to pressure me into putting the baby up for adoption. While pregnant anytime I complained about any little thing he would say "well you could have gotten that taken care of". We've broken up since and I now have a wonderful little boy. However like a month after we broke up he confessed to me that he never fully pulled out. He said he would release in me and pull out shortly after. At first I felt that mistakes happen and theres nothing I could do about it, just live and learn. But since he told me that, I feel so tricked! I now have sooooo much resentment for him.
Do you think im justified in feeling tricked?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 7:09 PM on Mar. 26, 2009 in Pregnancy

Answers (12)
  • This may sound a little harsh but, you still could have said no. You could have refused completely. You knew the risks and you gave in. It was a dirty thing for him to do, and it was horrible of him to put that kind of pressure on you, but you are a grown up too. I'm sorry if this comes across bitchy, but you did ask what we thought.
    Rebecca7708

    Answer by Rebecca7708 at 7:14 PM on Mar. 26, 2009

  • Yes you are justified. Your ex is a loser in the worst way and you should be glad you son wont have that moron as an influence in his life. Sometimes having an absent father is a blessing, I can see that in this case.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:15 PM on Mar. 26, 2009

  • Yea when it comes to "pull out and pray" which I have always done for like the last five years...there is always a chance at pregnancy. Its the risk we take. I know I should use condoms but I personally find them irritating. But I never got pregnant until the one time he did not pull out...which was fine b/c we were getting married 2 mon later anyways. But this guy sounds like a jerk..but don't think about it anymore. I would not trust him though. Now you have a little boy and that is great. Good luck.
    mommylovesu28

    Answer by mommylovesu28 at 7:19 PM on Mar. 26, 2009

  • No, you had sex without birth control. Don't blame someone else. This is your body, and you are fully responsible for it.
    EireLass

    Answer by EireLass at 7:19 PM on Mar. 26, 2009

  • I dont think you sound bitchy. I COULD have and SHOULD have said no and pulling out is a lame excuse for birth control method. But I still did it and I have to take responsibilty for that. I just felt tricked in that I TRUSTED him but he deliberately did what he did.
    -OP
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:20 PM on Mar. 26, 2009

  • yeah, he is definately a loser but you should have stuck up for yourself and refused to have sex without a condom. you weren't really tricked because as we all know, if you dont use a condom what in the world do you think will happen?? i wouldn't worry about it, you shouldn't feel tricked because you have a beautiful baby now.
    ambercoloredawn

    Answer by ambercoloredawn at 7:20 PM on Mar. 26, 2009

  • While you have the right to feel tricked, you also have the responsibility for your own birth control if you are having sex.
    reflect1light

    Answer by reflect1light at 7:26 PM on Mar. 26, 2009

  • Your ex sounds like a loser and I don't see why your regretting your son after you made the desicion to keep him. I think birth control would be a good step for you because you obviously give in to people who don't want to use a condom. I know you feel tricked into it but look what you have now, you have a beautiful son and he is worth alot more than the mistake your ex made. Don't regret your son, it isnt his fault his parents were morons from the start.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:41 PM on Mar. 26, 2009

  • Congratulations on your beautiful baby boy. Yeah, your loser boyfriend tricked you. So, spend a few minutes ranting & raving about him & then move on. Just think, if he hadn't tricked you, you may not have gotten your son. So the loser's trick backfired on him--you got your baby & he got nothing.
    funnyface1204

    Answer by funnyface1204 at 7:47 PM on Mar. 26, 2009

  • You were tricked. He lied. It's cool though. You have a cute little baby now =]
    mommykayti

    Answer by mommykayti at 7:57 PM on Mar. 26, 2009

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