The sex.. yes. But it's also about self confidence, closeness, not being judged etc. For instance,if he has a wife or girlfriend at home, who calls him on all his stupid mistakes, or makes him feel small or unappreciated, or doesn't satisfy him sexually,maybe she's unwilling to try new things... sometimes it seems easier to find a 'safe person' to play out that part of their lives. They satisfy their need to feel important or loved unconditionally, they have sex when they want, they aren't walking into a war zone, or dealing with everyday relationship problems (You didn't take the garbage out, this bill is going to be late,your mother said this to me, the kid's teacher called, etc). I think it's their way of satisfying a need for an uncomplicated life,and they're willing to pay for it..for some it's money,some it's drugs or parties etc. Women cheat for "love" men almost always cheat with someone that makes THEM feel important.
at 10:30 PM on Mar. 26, 2009