i was dropping my daughter off for daycare today (which happens to be at the OTHER grandparents house) and daddy and his gf came in shortly before i left. I was tell my daughter to say bye to mommy, and she proceded to look straight at daddys gf and say "bye mommy"
My daughter is almost 2 and this is not the only time i have caught this happening. A couple weeks ago i was with liz and we saw daddy and walked to where he was and when we left, he told her to say "bye to mom---nicole", he acted like it was a slip but im pretty sure they have her calling the gf mommy when liz is at his house...
Is this normal or typical OR is it nicoles way of trying to feel like the mommy even tho she isnt? They are pregnant right now and liz will be around her lil sibling as it calls nicole mommy, but that doesnt mean liz has to to right?
Does anyone else think nicole is telling my 2 year old to call her mommy too or am i just crazy?
Answer by delta139 at 12:34 PM on Mar. 27, 2009
Answer by bananaapplepie at 1:03 PM on Mar. 27, 2009
Answer by maxsmom11807 at 1:05 PM on Mar. 27, 2009
I would talk to the dad first. Don't put your daughter in the middle of that argument. Even if you are uncomfortable with it, ultimately it is your daughter's choice. I would ask her father if they are "making" her call the gf that or if it is something your daughter started on her own. Unfortunately, all you can do is say that it makes you uncomfortable because you don't have any say as to what goes on in their home, just like they can't tell you what to do in yours.
Answer by mrsbrown1 at 2:28 PM on Mar. 27, 2009
You definitely shouldn't put your DD in the middle. Adults make the rules, if adults make different rules, then she will follow different rules, she is the child. You can't tell her NOT to call GF "mom" if they are teaching this to her. (because she will have to choose to obey you or him, or realize that she better keep a secret from you so you won't get mad---leading to other problems in the future.) The only thing you could do is talk to her dad if you feel strongly about it, but as you stated yourself---after this baby comes, she probably will do it on her own because they will call themselves mommy/daddy to the 1/2-sib. Maybe the compromise is Mommy & Mommy Nicole. Your child's relationship with her father should trump any petty jealousy issues-if there are any. Good luck, sorry about the situation, but it sounds like you are mature enough to handle it.
Answer by doodlebopfan at 9:07 PM on Mar. 27, 2009
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Answer by bananaapplepie at 4:49 AM on Mar. 28, 2009