Scenario: 14yo sustains hand injury that necessitates going to the urgent care center. Father and/or stepmother take him to the UC, where he is treated for a minor fracture, and sent home. -- 14yo is in joint-living arrangement with parents; one week with dad, one week with mom; back and forth. -- *Important note... 'mom' and son have strained relationship; mom and dad/stepmom have even worse relationship. 'Mom' has ongoing self-issues. 14yo son is in 'dad's custody when injury takes place. 'Mom' will certainly have wanted to been told of the incident. QUESTION: Does dad call mom, to let her know of the injury, explain the outcome, etc? Does dad ask 14yo son what HE wants them to do, and follow his wishes? At 14, is son old enough to say, "Dont tell mom", and subsequently 'dad' doesnt say a word? ---- The phrase has been put, "It was [14yo's] decision not to tell his mom." ---- In your opinion, is that good enough?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:54 PM on Mar. 27, 2009 in Teens (13-17)
Answer by tyfry7496 at 5:26 PM on Mar. 27, 2009
Answer by mamaofwildboys at 1:59 PM on Mar. 27, 2009
Answer by aliciatron at 2:01 PM on Mar. 27, 2009
NOPE !! IMO a living arrangement as such offers NO stability to a 14 year old teen with a normal 14 year old mind process. Back & forth, back & forth, bla..bla...How is that helpful? I would rip my hair out !! I would document & go back to modify custody. Of course your relationship is strained under such an arrangement. Is dad abusive? Do you need a break? Maybe son needs to live with dad full time for a while to find out about reality on a daily basis & weekends with you could IMPROVE your relationship. I have a 15 year old boy. Dad isn't a choice. Been 10 years on my own. When boys are this age if there is an acceptable alternative I can see a mom needing a break. Let Dad & SM see how it feels to deal with him week after week? Maybe?
Answer by strongmom40 at 2:05 PM on Mar. 27, 2009
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Answer by MommyHess at 11:09 PM on Mar. 27, 2009
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