My husband of 12 years cheated on me last year and got a girl pregnant. She had the baby and got mad at him because he did not go around the baby and she told me everything. I already knew that he was cheating on me and had done some investigating on my own. I was waiting for something like that to happen so that I could find out all the details. I went to her house that night and told her how sorry he really was and told her that she could have him. She had another man living with her and said that she didn't want my man, but she didn't feel as if her baby should be hidden. I do see her point, but I was so furious that I was waiting for my husband to get off work and confronted him. I didn't kick him out that night and he asked me for another chance. We have four children together and they really love their father so I did not kick him out. Should I forgive him and get past this or move on? How do I handle this other child?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 5:12 PM on Mar. 28, 2009 in Relationships
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Answer by Anonymous at 5:23 PM on Mar. 28, 2009
I agree, if you take him back you also take back the child too and this other woman for whatever involvement she might have in the future. That child deserves as much support from your husband as your children get. You do what you feel is best for YOU and your kids. If it were me personally, he'd be gone. I will teach my children that I can forgive...but he'd never share a life with me ever again. Forgiveness is a good thing, but it doesn't mean you have to stay with that person.
Answer by legalmommy101 at 5:31 PM on Mar. 28, 2009
I feel b/c you have 4 children of your own with him you should stay with him for their sake and try to make the best of it. As far as the other child always be nice to him/her. The child did not ask to be put in this situation. The baby is an innocent bystander. Poor baby.
Best of luck. I turn to my spirituality in times like this.
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