My step-gs is headed for trouble. He is NINE. He lives with mom/new stepdad; his dad ( SIL) and his mom had him when they were unwed teens. SIL also had another child with next gf he also never married. "Lucky" DD and he married before having a baby but stepGS now has a ss and a hs at his mom's...at dad's hb, hs and another hs on the way. He is the oldest of all and no doubt a very confused child.
Past troubles have been anger, stealing money, credit cards (even though he couldn't do anything with it), and probably things I am unaware of. Now, he has threatened to hit mom, and worse he and 2 other boys have been caught with a "list" (to put it in mildterms) of people they "hate" at school. He stated he didn't know what the intent of the list was but was giving names of people he hated. As a STEPgrandparent I have NO rights. What should I do?
Asked by Anonymous at 12:25 AM on Mar. 29, 2009 in Tweens (9-12)
Sounds to me like your nine year old grandson feels like a black sheep. Could be as a step kid he feels threatened by new competition or that natural born Sib's get all the goodies (in his eyes). He may feel disliked or hated at school and is spreading the wealth too.
Get him into school or church counseling if Mom & Dad don't have insurance, its cheaper. If they have behavioral health insurance get him to a good child psychologist. Do the research and hand his parents or the other grandparents the needed business card(s) or offer to make, transport & pay for the first appointment yourself. Maybe the various adult family componets can pool $ to get him the help he is shouting out for.
Ask a school counselor or public librarian to suggest age appropriate books for kids with this kind of anger issues. Then go buy them for the kid. Grandmas give presents all the time. ;-)
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