Call me a bad mommy or whatever but I literally can't stand my 11 year old son. He's a defiant little jerk who doesn't listen and lies to us and his teacher. He has ADHD and I can't take it anymore. Even on meds he's a little ass. I just need to vent and wonder ifv anyone else has this problem? I swear I want to leave but my 8 year old son is a dream and can't leave him.
You are not alone and I think it was VERY brave and strong of you to post this not anon. That said I have at times and for like weeks at a time not liked my son, I still loved him but just did not like him at all. It is probably partly the age and partly the ADHD. It could also be from the medication, a friend of mine has a son who refused to take his ADHD medication once he realized it was that that made him act like a jerk because he was so irritable he just took it out on every one around him, it was a side effect of the medication (not sure which one though).
Any way here is a big hug to let you know there are supportive people here because you will probably be bashed soon enough by the perfect mommies with perfect kids.
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Hang in there! You're human, so throw that guilt out of the window. Counseling (they call it behavioral/cognitive where he'll learn strategies) coupled with meds can help your son. And, check your local area for support groups for parents of ADHD children. Try to find a group and if you can and you're open to it, try to get counseling yourself. (A good therapist can work wonders!) As a former teacher, I always told parents: I live with your child for 30 hours each week, you live with them 24/7/365 since birth. It's tough, especially since he's at "that age." But, you're not alone and your decision to post here (rather than run off or choke someone) shows you're a good mom! :-)
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