My bf has 2 kids with 2 different women. He is 6 years older than me and this is my first pregnancy. First of all, I'm not used of my bfs having kids whatsoever, not to mention myself but when his kids come over to visit, I feel the erge to shrivel up and leave. It's like I don't know how to act around them or how to treat them. I've helped with school shopping,christmas shopping and even easter shopping and things still havent changed.He wants me to be there with them when he spends time with them and it's just akward for me. Since this is my first pregnancy, I'm not even sure how to be a parent. Am I suppose to be a parent-type person to them? or does it matter? I just don't know and I hate this feeling..
Asked by Anonymous at 4:43 AM on Mar. 30, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by davismom909 at 5:57 AM on Mar. 30, 2009
Just try to get to know them. The better you know what kind of people they are the more comfortable you'll feel. Don't immediately jump into the parent role. They have a parent there - your BF. Just relax and talk to them, ask what they're interested in, hobbies, what they like in school, stuff like that. And be open with them. They have to get to know you too.
Answer by Madge1428 at 4:56 AM on Mar. 30, 2009
Answer by JuLiAnSmOmMy317 at 4:58 AM on Mar. 30, 2009
For me personally, before I had a kid I had *no idea* how to act around other peoples' children. I didn't know what to say or do; I was always afraid I would say the wrong thing, and I was very easily embarrassed about it. It wasn't until after having my son that I realized interacting with children isn't all that scary, lol.
Just give it some time. You'll adjust.
Also, if you really don't know anything about being a parent, there is a lot of good information online as well as the library. I didn't know ANYTHING and it scared me at first. My mother gave me "The Baby Book" by Dr.Sears. I don't follow it word for word, but there is a lot of good info in there.
Good luck. :)
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