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i can't stand this!

my son used to listen soo well! but it seems like every day im with him he doesn't listen more and more. and ESPECIALLY when other people are at the house, he won't listen at all. i don't know what to do. it seems to me like every time he comes back from his dads house he acts like a monster! and i know i can't really do anything about that. what should i do??

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exxOHjackie

Asked by exxOHjackie at 4:20 AM on Mar. 31, 2009 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • you have to remind him that even though he gets away with stuff at his dad's, he will not get away with it with you. don't change how you discipline him. he'll get used to it, just stay consistent. kids naturally go through stages where they test you so it might not even have anything to do with dad. just keep disciplining and be consistent (that's the key). they are soooo cute!
    ericadrian

    Answer by ericadrian at 4:37 AM on Mar. 31, 2009

  • Just stay consistent, it sounds like he's testing you, which is completely normal at almost every age ;-)

    It can also be that he's testing to see if you're still there for him when he coms back from his dad, especially if he's been away for more than a couple of days. So just stay consistent, that way he'll know that mom's always the same and that he can always rely on you to be there.
    listo

    Answer by listo at 7:19 AM on Mar. 31, 2009

  • He may be experiencing some things in life that he just doesn't quite know how to handle and could be angry. You said he acts this way everytime he come's back from his dad's house. So I am assuming that you guys have went through a divorce/separation? He may be reacting to the fact of that. And trying to understand why mommy and daddy aren't together. And reacting out of angry and resentment. Try being calm with him and let him know you love him very much, try talking to him and seeing what is on his mind. Sometimes children don't know how to express their feeling's like others and maybe he's just upset and just doesn't understand why mommy and daddy aren't together and why he has to go to daddy's and then back to mommy's and so on. Try and explain to him that mommy and daddy love him very much and it was nothing he did wrong at all. Let him know that he is very special and loved! Hope this helps you.
    mesmerizing2008

    Answer by mesmerizing2008 at 11:16 AM on Apr. 1, 2009

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