Ok, my husband and i are like roller coster but to be fair mostly we are ok. He gives me spending money every month and I am ok with it as i can spend it to anything i wanted with no question ask. Although, we don't have joint assets at all and everything is under his name eg, two houses, cars. It was a problem to me at first until i give up and he said he is willing to have a will to protect me in case something has happen to him. Also he is willing to buy a third property under both our names.
The problem is my 3 sisters & other friends says i should divorce him as he is selfish and wanted to keep everything to himself. I do love him that is why i put up with it and i realise if i am by myself i won't be able to buy property on my own anyway. Plus my friends & family i couldn't stay with them if we get separated.
What will you do? pls no bashing.....
Asked by Anonymous at 10:07 AM on Mar. 31, 2009 in Relationships
Maybe he is buying them in his name to get a better rate. Do you have bad credit or any credit at all? Our house and our vehicles are in my name because my husband messed up his credit before we met. So he can't get financing. But if you are married and he purchased these things after you were married, they are legally yours as well no matter who's name is on the paperwork. That is in most states anyway. There are a few that are not like that but most of them are. Maybe he is a control freak. If you are okay with it, who cares? Does it really change anything? You are married, it's a partnership. If this stuff bothers you, talk to him about it. It's nothing to divorce over, that's ridiculous.
Answer by DDry at 10:10 AM on Mar. 31, 2009
Do you really love him? And does he really love you? You should be able to talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. I think you should start with that. To me it does not seem like a reason to get divorced. Don't make any big decisions with out talking to him and deciding how you really feel. Don't listen to anyone else. Divorce is a big step. You have to be sure it is what you really want.
Answer by Anonymous at 10:12 AM on Mar. 31, 2009
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Answer by Anonymous at 10:28 AM on Mar. 31, 2009
I dont think that is a reason to leave him (unless you are leaving out any abuse). If you are comfortable with your situation, then your family and friends should respect that. This is your marriage.. not theirs. If you are unhappy, then talk to your husband and let him know you need to be more involved.. but you say he is willing to buy another house, and have a will.. it doesnt seem like he is trying to keep anything away from you. Maybe this is his way of not burdening you with financial issues.. it can be stressful and it is possible he wants to shoulder that burden so you dont have to.. if he gives you money when you want it, provides for you and your children, and you are happy, then I think you should simply explain to your friends and family that you trust your husband. Honestly I dont think it is worth ending your marriage over. Good luck! Praying 4 u!
Answer by Tzutchka at 10:37 AM on Mar. 31, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 10:42 AM on Mar. 31, 2009
are you drinking alcohol at 10:30 am? Anyway, guess that's non of my business. Do you have kids together? I don't think it's that big of a deal. I would not care who's name the house & cars are in as long as i loved my husband & he loves me to death. That stuff is of little importance to me.
Answer by samurai_chica at 10:48 AM on Mar. 31, 2009