You problably can't stop the crying all together but what you could do is, leave the room for a very short amount of time, come right back and love on the older child, do this often increasing the time just a bit each time. For the holding thing, when done holding the youngest, put him down, and pay a lot of attention to your older one. That way when something happens that he doesn't like he'll assosiate it with getting tons of loving on when your finished.
at 8:02 PM on Mar. 31, 2009