I called DDs father this morning to ask him to watch the baby this afternoon so I could go get a pap smear (we aren't together). When I asked him to watch her, he got very emotional. He stated that he doesn't like to watch her because she doesn't know who he is. He sees her 5-6 times a month, at his convenience. I have tried to make things easier by dropping her off at his house and picking her up after the visit. I give him whole afternoons, sometimes whole days, to take DD.
I don't understand his thinking though! If he is feeling distanced from DD, shouldn't he want to see her more? I understand it is very hard to have a child who he isn't that connected with. I gave my firstborn up for adoption, and at almost 7 years of age she still doesn't understand my role in her life (though we are all open about it). When I do feel upset about this, I make the effort to see her more often.
So what gives? What's up with him?
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