How do I erase this word from her frequently used vocabulary? Her excuse for everything is "I can't." "I can't walk the dog, he's too big""I can't pass my test or study because it's too hard" "I can't clean up after myself, because I forget" "I can't, I can't I can't" "I can't, why try" I am at a loss. I've only been around her for about a year and now its just us, but I don't know how much positive I can offer someone refusing to take any. All the negative has filled her head and heart. How do I clear it out? I've tried positive encouragement, compliments, praises, and even instead of being strict, on schedule and by the book I've even relaxed on the grounding and chores. And it seems like all of it is just being taken advantage of. There has to be something I haven't tried. Please help.Answer Question
Answer by AK_aries at 8:29 PM on Apr. 3, 2009
Answer by louise2 at 8:35 PM on Apr. 3, 2009
Answer by twocutetwins09 at 8:38 PM on Apr. 3, 2009
Tell her she is sending a negative message to herself & how can you do well if you keep giving yourself these negative messages.
Keep up the positive encouragement.
Answer by Anonymous at 8:38 PM on Apr. 3, 2009
Answer by RhondaVeggie at 10:20 PM on Apr. 3, 2009
Answer by janet116 at 10:25 PM on Apr. 3, 2009
Answer by PhillyinFrance at 4:22 AM on Apr. 4, 2009
Answer by LegacyKimberley at 1:48 PM on Apr. 4, 2009
Answer by jesse123456 at 7:20 PM on Apr. 4, 2009
Tell her if she "can't" clean up, study, walk the dog etc... Then you "can't" give her her allowance, buy that new cd, let her on the computer etc... And let that be the end all of the conversation. If she doesn't walk the dog then she doesn't play her video game. She will learn if she wants to do any of the things she likes to do she will have to earn them.
Answer by MomOfJandM at 11:27 PM on Apr. 4, 2009
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