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i dont know what to do for disipline. ive taken things away, tried time out and nothing works!!

i always worry about them being upset with me for fussing at them and i dont want them to think i dont love them!!! what can i try for punishment?

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2suga2

Asked by 2suga2 at 11:13 PM on Apr. 3, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Ummmmm.. spank his butt, perhaps? Do you suppose? Maybe????
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:14 PM on Apr. 3, 2009

  • How old are your children?
    jamesmommy12

    Answer by jamesmommy12 at 11:15 PM on Apr. 3, 2009

  • Don't worry about your kids being upset with you for punishing them. It's way better to have a child that is ALIVE than a dead one, wouldn't you agree? What you teach them now will in so many ways save their lives. If nothing seems to work it's because you are consistent because you are too worried about being their friend instead of their parent. Make a choice, are you a friend or their parent? When you decide that you are their parent..you will stay consistent and know that you are disciplining them because you LOVE them.

    legalmommy101

    Answer by legalmommy101 at 11:17 PM on Apr. 3, 2009

  • They will know you love them - and after you discipline them you can have a talk with them and tell them what they did wrong and why the consequence then remind them you love them.

    My son knows we are trying to keep him 'happy, healthy and safe'. He doesn't fully understand but he knows that we are trying to take care of him.
    rio_burb

    Answer by rio_burb at 1:47 AM on Apr. 4, 2009

  • Try time out some more but BE CONSISTENT!!!! Give at least one warning first, then time out, NO yelling, NO hitting, just time out. After they are in time out and they want to get up, ignore them basically until they get up themselves, and then just put them back without a word. And then afterwards have a talk and cuddle time. Along with that(don't do one or the other it does nothing) use a sticker chart of some kind, just make up your own, and give him/her a sticker for EVERY LITTLE THING they do good. When the chart is filled to your own preference take them for something fun, or get a new toy, or go to the park for a picnic, or something that they enjoy. It takes about a week for it to stick, but you MUST BE CONSISTENT. It really really really works. Its pretty cheap and really easy too!!! =]
    mommykayti

    Answer by mommykayti at 11:09 AM on Apr. 4, 2009

  • Keep trying different ways of discipline until you find the one that works for your family. Then be consistent.

    Kids need discipline,(teachers would agree) your a good mother for wanting them to stay safe and learn self control. It's alright if they get upset, they'll get over it and still love you. Just remember to reinforce postive behavior with positive rewards. Lots of smiles, hugs, special treats etc.
    lilmommy0416

    Answer by lilmommy0416 at 11:15 AM on Apr. 4, 2009

  • Be consistent with the time out. As you take him to T.O say very little to him. Just say,"This is time out for ------" Sit him in the chair away from others and TV, toys, preferably not in his room. Set a timer that he can see and hear and say,"When the timer rings you can get up, if you have been quiet. If the whole time he sits in TO he is screaming then he does not get up. Try for 1 minute per age of quiet sitting. If he gets up, just calmly without talking take his hand and go back to the chair. The timer is then reset. Let him see you reset it.
    Most importantly before the bad behavior occurs, CATCH HIM BEING GOOD! Everytime you see him behaving and doing what you want, make sure you let him know often. Tell him,"Mommy loves the way you are sitting at the dinner table, or how you are cleaning up your toys, etc. He needs to hear more positive praise and notice of good behavior than the bad. Praise/reward often!
    LovetoTeach247

    Answer by LovetoTeach247 at 12:10 PM on Apr. 4, 2009

  • You Can Try To Take Away A PrivlageOr Make Up A Good Behavier Chart With Stickers If Their Good Threw The Day They Get A Sticker If Not They Dont Get One & At The End Of Each Week Give Them A Prize Something Simple Like Bubbles Or Chalk What Ever They Like Most That Way They Will Know When Their Misbehaving They Wont Get The Extra Rewards
    babyjizmalife

    Answer by babyjizmalife at 3:15 PM on Apr. 4, 2009

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