If you gained a substantial amount of weight years after marrying your DH, and he told you he found you physically unattractive b/c of the weight or that he didn't find you as attractive now as you were before would you be mad?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:41 PM on Apr. 4, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by nwdeserangel at 2:44 PM on Apr. 4, 2009
I guess his love his extremely conditional. And his vows were something like this...I'll love you forever..through sickness and health to death do us part unless you get fat! The real question here is are you happy with yourself? If not, then make some changes. If you are happy with yourself then tell him to kiss your ass. What's causing the weight gain? Is it a medical issue? Are you eating to comfort yourself because you are unhappy with him?
Answer by legalmommy101 at 2:50 PM on Apr. 4, 2009
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Answer by NannyB. at 3:15 PM on Apr. 4, 2009
I've thought about this question a bit more and sent this to the OP-
Perhaps I just have a different perspective than others:
I think another thing that I didn't state in my reply was that just because he isn't physically attracted to her right now doesn't mean he doesn't love her and doesn't mean he will never find her physically attractive, either. It's not shallow, it's just every marriage has it's ebbs and flows. Just because he isn't physically attracted to her doesn't mean he isn't supportive. I bet you anything, he's more not attracted to the fact that she doesn't feel good about herself and that she is no longer comfortable in her own skin then her just having gained weight.
Answer by nwdeserangel at 3:25 PM on Apr. 4, 2009
I would not be mad no... but I would be extremely hurt by it but would also appreciate his honesty!! If he was feeling unattracted to me then I would want him to tell me and I would get to doing something about it IMMIDIATLY!!
Answer by scaredmommy08 at 3:37 PM on Apr. 4, 2009
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