Of course you'll have to do this from time to time... but what you want to strive for is getting her to listen because you're her mother, not because you have the power over things she wants. Try to talk to her about what she's expected to do before you go out in public. Then when she does them, commend her for doing what she is supposed to, but don't offer a reward. Rewards and punishments should both be used in moderation. Try instead to pull her aside and get her to look you in the eye. Tell her what you want her to do, and make her repeat it back to you. Thank her for listening, but don't make a big deal. Be really consistent with this.
at 3:49 PM on Apr. 4, 2009