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What's more important?

A chance to start a family with a definately good and caring husband. Your bonding with your family (mom, dad, brother, sister, aunts and uncles) when your're pregnant? Which should get the most attention? Is it fair to ask your husband to take a back seat to your family during this time or should you focus on strengthening what the two of you have? Knowing that the two parties have conflict (husband has legitimate issues).

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Asked by Anonymous at 8:44 PM on Apr. 4, 2009 in Relationships

Answers (7)
  • I think this is a no brainer. Dh should. He is the father of the baby right?

    Answer by twilite2000 at 8:49 PM on Apr. 4, 2009

  • id say focus on strengthening what the two had. family is always gonna be there and always love you, but a good relationship takes work, and having a baby is gonna put more strain on the relationship...having a baby is amazing and all, but it does put more strain on a relationship. . . atleast for me it has,

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:51 PM on Apr. 4, 2009

  • we always put our relationship before anything else. maybe that's why we stayed married for 23 years until he died this past july.
    after the kids came it was the kids, then us, then the rest of the world. as for babies putting a strain on the relationship, i don't buy that. if you have a good foundation then nothing can break that.
    family will always be there no matter what.

    Answer by justjacki at 8:56 PM on Apr. 4, 2009

  • You should be focusing on your husband your family will always be your family and should always be a priority but you and your husband and your baby are going to be your new family which should ALWAYS come first!!

    Answer by scaredmommy08 at 8:58 PM on Apr. 4, 2009

  • focus on the family you made. Your emediate family should understand that your a grown woman with changed priorities. If your husband has "legitimate issues" then you should back him up

    Answer by worriedmommy600 at 9:01 PM on Apr. 4, 2009

  •  I think it is important to have a strong bond with family of course, but to go so far as asking DH to take a backseat? Heavens no. I think that is kinda hurtful. He is the one you chose to spend the rest of your life with. And it is important for dads to be a part of the pregnancy, birth, and life of their child. It would be pretty unfair to ask him to give that up. Many women get pregnant and the fathers split, or are very detached.. don't begrudge a man the opportunity when he wants to be involved. Family should understand, you leave home and get married so that you can start a new life with that person. Not so you can live with him until some big event comes along and then he suddenly gets moved to the "backseat" until life is no longer exciting. Let your family be involved, but respect DH and his feelings. He is the one you chose to have the baby with. HTH!


    Answer by Tzutchka at 9:04 PM on Apr. 4, 2009

  • Please read part two.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:19 PM on Apr. 4, 2009

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