I have joint custody. My daughter is completely out of control. I `ve taking everything away from her. This past Friday she wanted to go skating with a friend. One that I know and like. After droping the girls off. Not 20 mins. go by and the girls mother called me saying that my daughter is no where to be found. That she is going to pick up her daughter. I ALSO head to the skating ring. The girl`s mother and daughter where extremly upset. My daughter used her, just to go. I CAN`T count how many good friends she has lost. Any way the mother told me that she does not what my daughter around her daughter any more. I can`t blam her, real nice family. I don`t know how to get her away from this chic, she`s in at school. I want to take Easter away from her. Please help me . By the way she`s 12 years oldAnswer Question
Answer by mumof4kids at 3:04 PM on Apr. 5, 2009
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Answer by ggad at 8:54 AM on Apr. 6, 2009
I agree, I think there's a boy involved.The only reason for ditching a friend or not being happy with going out when you've already been punished is because there's something bigger.. more tantalizing that she's interested in. That can only mean a boy. I used that trick several times, it was because my dad wasn't in the picture and my mom was a mess, although she cared, she was an alcoholic and I was a very angry child.Counseling might help you, but you can NOT stop parenting her. You have to be vigilant. Whether you let up and allow boys and friends etc is up to you, but I can tell you that if you give up it will be worse. I also wouldn't take Easter away, although I probably wouldn't go the distance. She'll end up resentful if you do and will turn it around."Mom doesn't love me so I don't even get an Easter, she doesn't value our family etc." I know it sounds stupid but she's a teen, she will take it personally.
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