Ok, my husband has decided to look up an ex girlfriend online. They were together over a decade ago. He said that he is just curious as to where life has taken her. He has made it quite clear that he is not interested in her anymore and that he is just curious. Which I do trust him because I know that he is far from the cheating type. He said that he wants to drop her an e-mail sometime to say hi. I can understand being curious and I fine with him looking her up but I told him that I am not ok with him contacting her and that it makes me feel disrespected. He got mad at me and we fought until I caved and gave him his way because I just don't think that it is worth fighting over. Should I feel disrespected? Also, I am over reacting? He has given me no reason what so ever not to trust him.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 3:17 PM on Apr. 6, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by DDry at 3:21 PM on Apr. 6, 2009
I'd be pretty upset too. Tell him to put himself in your shoes. What if you wanted to contact an old boyfriend. I don't think he'd feel the same. He may not be the cheating type, but to me this would be unacceptable.
Answer by momjoy1027 at 3:26 PM on Apr. 6, 2009
I think your past should be your past. There is no need for him to be in contact, not even to say hi.
Answer by Anonymous at 3:27 PM on Apr. 6, 2009
No, you should not feel disrespected. Contacting someone that you spent time with in the past should not feel disrespectful. She is someone he shared time & energy with & weather you like it or not, she helped him be the person he is today. I would let him email her. Maybe ask him if you can read the email before he sends it. Do you feel threatened by her in any way? He is married to you, there is a reason they did not work out, I would not worry about the email one bit. I still have 2 ex boyfriends that i still talk to occasionally. When you share life with someone, it's nice to hear from them from time to time. See how their world is going. Let it go, it is not disrespectful. Have you NEVER wanted to contact an ex just to see how they are doing?
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