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Do you believe it's possible for some mothers to be completely oblivious to their children's flaws?

A friend of mine seems unable to realize that her daughter is maybe not cut out for the pageant world, this poor little girl is constantly being picked on because of her weight and her height and many other imperfections that the other girls there see in her. But my friend, whom I do love dearly, does seem completely oblivious to this, I know we all see our children as beautiful, and they all are in their own ways, but sometimes you have to say enough is enough. So comment on this and answer the above question, thank you :)

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Asked by Anonymous at 3:25 PM on Apr. 6, 2009 in General Parenting

Answers (22)
  • maybe she just doesn't want to see it? i don't think mom's can be oblivious, i think moms just pretend it's not there, they just refuse to see it.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:26 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

  • i think every mother thinks that their child is beautiful regardless of what the world sees as "beautiful"

    Answer by josiesmommy00 at 3:27 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

  • Yeah it happens, we all want our kid to be the best and they are all perfect in our eyes, but it is hard on some kids to try to live up to that image too, maybe tell your friend that you think it is doing damage to her daughters self esteem trying to live up to the perfect image she has set for her, it may open her eyes a bit.

    Answer by AK_aries at 3:27 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

  • Well, you said it yourself . . . every mother thinks their child is the most beautiful child. Maybe just talk to her about how it is all making her daughter feel. If she is being picked on, this can't possibly be a good experience for her.

    Answer by BridgetC140 at 3:28 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

  • i think we are all oblivious to some of our childrens flaws. or we try to gloss over them thinking they will go away. maybe your friend is not as oblivious as you think though and is trying to show her daughter that just because she isn't society's answer to beautiful she is still beautiful? i would maybe say hey i saw this and thought you might like it, and point her to a website or something that has pageants for children that are a little on the bigger side? (i'm guessing the child is over not under weight)

    Answer by vabchmommy at 3:28 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

  • If its the little girl that is interested in doing the pagents then what do you want them mom to do, tell her dd she is too big, that would be terrible.

    If its the mom pushing the pagents then possibly she is trying to help her dd to fit in more or inspire her to loose weight?

    There is no reason that I see that she should stop. The only reason I would agree too is if the little girl hates being in pagents.

    As parents we shouldnt see our children as the world does, we are their soft place to fall when life isnt fair, we are the ones who tell them they are beautiful when people have been telling them they are fat all day long.

    Sounds like she is trying to focus on her dd and not the ugly people around her.

    Answer by mom2twobabes at 3:39 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

  • How in the world is "height" an imperfection?

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:42 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

  • So is the child really overweight and whatever she is being taunted for? Or it is just the pageant world thinks that? Maybe the mom wants the child to overcome the issues, or force the pageant world to over come them. I dunno. Soemtimes, people really are oblivious. Is the child wanting to stop?

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:55 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

  • yes!

    Answer by Barb87 at 3:57 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

  • Yes... my neice is just ugly, I hate to say it, but this child is one of those that you don't want to see before you have had your coffee... Her mother though insists of taking 5million pictures a month and emailing them all out... She's convinced that her daughter will be a model and actress when she grows up...

    Umm... NO!

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 4:06 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

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