I'm confused by how many comments I see on this site from women who make it sound like if you take care of your hubby (or BF/SO/etc) you are a "slave" or "maid" or "doormat". I don't see why it is a bad thing to want to take care of my hubby. I do cater to him quite a bit, and I take care of him, cook his meals and serve them too him, get his drinks, take care of the house, etc. But I enjoy it. I love him and I want to do whatever I can to make his life happy and as easy as possible. I certainly don't feel like a slave or a doormat at all. He is very good to me, and he's never demanded I do any of these things. It's just something I do because I want to.
It just seems like nowadays this is seen as a sign of weakness or something negative by a lot of people. And to me, that is really sad.
Asked by Anonymous at 4:33 PM on Apr. 6, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by mominbolt at 4:36 PM on Apr. 6, 2009
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Answer by NannyB. at 4:46 PM on Apr. 6, 2009
Wow! I could have written anon's message, (but I didn't.) The things she does to take care of her husband, I mean. I see it as part of my purpose in life to help make him happy. If it is something I don't care to do, such as washing the cars, which would no doubt make him happy, then I don't do it. But I like to cook, I like to do laundry, I like a clean house, so I do these things in our marriage. I think of ways I can make him happy- providing meals that he likes, buying him books or music that he likes, doing things I know will please him, because I love him, and it seems natural to do what I can to make him happy.
Answer by Bmat at 4:47 PM on Apr. 6, 2009
Answer by Bmat at 4:52 PM on Apr. 6, 2009
Answer by melody77 at 5:05 PM on Apr. 6, 2009