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when sex doesnt fix everything?

what do you do when you and your partner just cant seem to find common ground? i measn yeah when its good its GREAT but when its bad its almost breaking point. divorce is always a huge topic and always comes up in an arguement does that really mean he's done? or just upset? how do you know when its really worth saving your marriage? or if the other person even makes you happy? help please anyone!!

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mkluk123

Asked by mkluk123 at 6:24 PM on Apr. 6, 2009 in Relationships

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  • At what point did sex fix everything? Sounds pretty superficial to me. Sex doesn't fix anything, it probably just smoothed things over until things erupted again because the issues were never dealt with. Only you know if your marriage is worth saving. Look for couples therapy to get to the bottom of the issues you two have.

    legalmommy101

    Answer by legalmommy101 at 6:27 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

  • Well if you or him are not happy then you should know the answer to that.... but then again people really don't know what they want or what makes them happy... The best thing to do is sit down and have a calm none arguementive talk about it and go from there.
    soonmommyof3

    Answer by soonmommyof3 at 6:27 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

  • drink a lot :p

    jk thats really my generic answer for everything :p
    aliciatron

    Answer by aliciatron at 6:28 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

  • Sex can't fix anything. If that is what you are basing your relationship on, then you have problems. But it is ALWAYS worth saving your marriage. If divorce keeps coming up, make it a rule that divorce is NOT an option. These are both great books and can help you out more than you know:
    Love & Respect by Emerson Eggerichs
    Becoming the Woman of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes

    I highly recommend you go out and get them today! They are awesome reads. You can message me whenever if you need someone to talk to.
    feesharose

    Answer by feesharose at 6:41 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

  • thank you all very much!
    mkluk123

    Answer by mkluk123 at 6:43 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

  • there needs to be a balance of all things, not just sex. Find the balance. If it's not balance then fix it. If you don't want to work to fix it (together) then let it go and move on.
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 6:45 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

  • Sex was never meant to fix everything. Sex is the ultimate expression of the unity that is in place between a man and his wife. Also, your husband can never make you happy. It's not his job to make you happy. You are totally responsible for your own happiness. It is a choice. If you are placing on him the burden for making you happy, that in itself is enough pressure on him that could destroy your marriage. The key to being happy in life is in giving yourself away to those who mean the most to you. Hopefully, your husband would be at the top of that list. If your life together has been based heretofore on sex, you will have more work to do, but it will be worth the effort. Work at discovering the character traits in him that you admire. Then discover some activities that the two of you could enjoy together and plan something. Be proactive and not passive.
    NannyB.

    Answer by NannyB. at 7:19 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

  • Sex does NOT fix anything...Just liek sex DOESN'T equal love. There is a lot more to a relationship then just that...It takes hard work and a lot of effort and committment on both parts. Plus a willingness to try and fix whatever is wrong.
    Dark_Princess_2

    Answer by Dark_Princess_2 at 9:02 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

  • It is always worth saving your marriage! Sex is definitely not the most important thing , but I once read it is indicative of how healthy your marriage is. Seek counseling and find the thing behind sex that is really dividing you. Nanny B is right as to being happy is all about giving yourself away to those you love, and I join her in hoping you are at the top of your husband's list as he should be in yours.
    Braveheart09

    Answer by Braveheart09 at 10:27 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

  • A marriage has it ups and down, and yes some of the downs are really down but it will come back up!! We have been through ALOT so much that most would not have bounced back and we have actually grown bc of it all!!
    katana4202

    Answer by katana4202 at 10:38 PM on Apr. 6, 2009

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