First Dh got laid off from work in Nov. Granted we are getting unemployment but it's not as much as his pay check. Today we found out our mortage went up almost 2 hundred dollars. On top of that 6 yr DS has a learning disability and we just found out he will be held back in the first grade. We have had him tested and he has ADHD prominantly inattentive type as well as a language disorder. This test was done almost a year ago and the school has only provided speech therapy which we see no improvement. The school tells us DS has a medical condition and there is nothing they can do for him. What the hell! I feel lost and alone. I don't know what to do about the mortage and I don't know what to do about my son. Please any suggestions?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 8:33 PM on Apr. 6, 2009 in General Parenting
Call country wide and try to get help. They are still learning the ins and out from the new stimulus but just call.
Answer by Anonymous at 8:35 PM on Apr. 6, 2009
For your mortgage, could you try refinancing? Interest rates are really low right now. My neighbor refinanced last week, got a 30 year mortgage and their interest rate is below 5%. For the school stuff, I'd be on them like flies on poo. The squeaky wheel gets oiled, so crawl up their butts until you find something that works for your son...and don't let them settle on "he has a medical condition" and push him aside. But right now, right this second, take a deep breath and know you'll get thru this.
Answer by momjoy1027 at 8:41 PM on Apr. 6, 2009
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Answer by salexander at 10:48 PM on Apr. 6, 2009
For your ds, is he on an IEP? My dd is also 6 and in 1st grade and struggling a lot. It's taken since November, but we are finally in the last stages of getting her and IEP. The school nurse showed me her report that she's giving the evaluation team and she said she will push the fact that dd does much better with one on one situations in the classroom. If she gets this our school will make sure she has a special ed teacher that spends time in the classroom with her to help her progress. I'm lucky, the teacher and eval team have been the ones to recommend this. The school nurse also told me that she thinks follow up with out pediatrician would help rule our other neurological problems so we are going to try that. I would push for an IEP if he doesn't have one. If what the school's doing now is their idea of an IEP then keep pushing for something better.
Answer by anime_mom619 at 11:45 PM on Apr. 6, 2009
As far as the mortgage, call your bank and talk to them. If you don't get someone who will be nice and work with you then hang up and call back and talk to someone else. That's what we did. I was so upset about our mortgage and they told us they couldn't help us. Then we called back and someone nice helped us and told us what our options would be. If that doesn't work look into other refinancing options at different places. Keep your chin up, I've been there recently and I know how stressful it is. Things finally turned around for us a little, and I'm sure they will for you as well. Just hang in there.
Answer by anime_mom619 at 11:49 PM on Apr. 6, 2009
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